This quote is the condensed statement that came out of a discussion during a Ren Xue® patterns class at Uplift Yourself
Attachment is a big topic in life development. "Just, let go". "Do not attach" are well-meant advises, but sometimes not really helpful in the moment.
We can also be attached to not being attached. If we force ourselves to detach before we are internally ready, we might choose to "separate" violently. In other words real detachment cannot be achieved through an external activity. It has to come from the inside out. It is not a behavioral change, it is a change that happens in the consciousness and eventually will manifest as growth